10 Things A Real Women Should Know and please feel free to add-on.

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I have made lots of mistakes, some more than once and others more than twice. There comes a day in a real woman's life when she is able to put all the mistakes of the past on a shelf and refer to them for life lessons. I admit, I have a library of life lessons. I have loved poorly. I have judged harshly. I have broken promises and broken hearts. I have misjudged my worth while thinking slutty was the new Sexy. I have.....but I have learned:

1. Slutty is not the new Sexy. Sexy is confidence. Slutty is lack of confidence.

2. I can cook like Grandma. This allows me to take some old school lessons and remix them into new school living. I am the woman of my home.

3. In order to truly be in charge you have to let a man think he is in charge.

4. The art of love making starts with taking care of myself sexually. Before I can be satisfied sexually, one must know what satisfies them.

5. Nagging never works. Planting seeds and nourishing those seeds will make it hard for the weeds to take over.

6. Virtue truly is one of God's gift to women.

7. A real woman should know how to take care of herself without expressing it every ten minutes to her partner.

8. Choose battles carefully. Everything cannot be an issue other wise you are looking for perfection. Only relationship deal breakers should bring out the beast.

9. A real woman should never threaten to leave a relationship. She should be confident in her place and when and if the need arises and your mind, body and heart are ready to leave, just leave. Trust they always want the good ones back.

10. A relationship is sacred and should never discuss the intimate details of her relationship.

10 THINGS YOU CAN DO TO HAVE A WONDERFUL NIGHT ALONE

It is so important to know who you are before you can be in a successful relationship.  One of the ways I believe you can get the ball rolling is to spend a wonderful night alone.  Here are few suggestions:

1. Be alone.  Alone means alone, not with the kids and not on the phone.  Not in your bedroom while your husband watches the game in the living room.  Kick everybody out and be alone.
   
2. Choose a good movie.  Something that will make you happy, not some heartbreak love story.  A feel good movie.
   
3. Cook yourself a good meal. Something in the supermarket that you would not by normally for the family.  Maybe two lobsters or a nice piece of salmon.  Splurge with a glass a wine, while listening to your favorite music.  I don't drink alcohol so I will bust open a bottle of cider.
   
4. Take a bubble bath with your favorite bath oils.  This bath is not about washing. This is about luxuriating and just letting the problems of life disappear for a little while.
   
5. Sit on your bed, find your best lotion and rub yourself down.
   
6. find your best pajamas.  I love pajamas.  If you don't like pajamas walk around naked.
   
7. Have a fashion show.  Try on your clothes and make yourself a supermodel.  Just let go and have fun.
   
8. Okay, have you ever sang into a brush.  Turn up the radio and sing like Whitney Houston.  And IIIIIIIIIIIII will always love  you.  Have fun.
   
9. Satisfy yourself.  OK I said it. I really believe that as a woman in order to be truly satisfied you have to know what satisfies you and yes I am talking about sexually.  Please yourself and enjoy it.
10. Lay in your bed and reflect on all of the things that you like to do. Remember who you are.  Thing about the different types of partners that will compliment you.  Fall asleep loving you.

10 Don'ts to Help Navigate a New Relationship

Speaking from personal experience, I will tell you that I have hurt and been
hurt and am glad to say that now I have come full circle. Life is not easy
but if we follow our hearts and remember who we are as individuals we can bring
our best selves to a new relationship. Many times we come heavy in pain
and covered with a bruised heart. We live in a world that promotes
selfishness and yet each one of us whether we admit it to ourselves or not, seeks
love. Love takes strength. You have to believe that whatever happens you
will bounce back. Sometimes you will get hurt but the walls built around
fear have never stopped people from coming into your life. They have only
stopped the right people from coming into your world. Be bold, be
beautiful, be you and be loved but don't:

1. Don't impose demands on somebody you just met.
2. Don't stalk him/her on cell phone or at work.
3. Don't get mad if you make plans or plans change. ie. over time , sick
4. Don't have sex unless your ready for whatever may happen good or bad.
5. Don't introduce to family members ie. children unless both parties agree that we are in a committed relationship.
6. Don't be what you think he/she wants you to be. Be yourself, be real, it is better to not be liked for who you are than to be liked for who you are not. Also, it is easier to be yourself. When the relationship is over you don't have to go on a quest to find the old you, it will be right there. If you cannot be your authentic self in a relationship then you are not ready to be in any relatioship.
7. Don't assume that what a person says is who they are. Let time and their actions reinforce a persons character. First impressions are only representatives of who a person is.
8. Don't do things for your mate that you are not committed to continuing forever. (Ie. put on sexy lingerie two years later you have on a flannel pjs and an ugly head tie)
9. Don't assume your partner knows what you want. Relationships are not common sense. We all want and need different things. Discuss relationship expectations without scaring eachother off.
10. Don't bring baggage from past relationships. Ie. cheating, he never called so now I think when you don't call your cheating. Give each person a new set of trust and love.

• *DO NOT NAG* This can drive a person to drink. State what you want and move on. If you don't get it, trust that you have received your answer and make a decision to stay and deal with it or leave.