10 Things Friends Should Never Know About Your Relationship

NEVER TELL

Most people have been in a relationship where far too much information was shared with friends and yet, as we embark on new relationships we insist on continuing to follow patterns of destructive behavior that continue to have negative consequences in your relationship.

Please stop doing this. "DON'T START NONE, WON'T BE NONE!

1. Never share sexual experiences with friends. Although most of us can't wait to tell our friends about a good experience or a bad experience, it is nobodies business. Sex is and should remain a private act between only those parties concernced. We blindly give information, unsure of what really is going on in the minds of our so called friends. Don't be upsed when you catch your "friend" in bed with your remarkable lover. (NEVER TELL MATES PENIS SIZE).


2. Never allow friends in bedroom you share with mate. In my opinion your bedroom is a personal space. This intimate space should be treated sacred.


3. Never tell friends about markings on your lovers body that may be located in "private places.


4. Never tell friends about problems you are having in your relationship. First off, many of them have no clue how to help you and offer advice that will only make matters worse. Some are miserable and misery loves company. Most of our friends do not specialize in "Making Relationships worse". If you need to discuss relationship problems with someone, look for someone who seems to be in a healthy relationship or an elder who has been through many things. Also, sometimes when we complain about mates we forgive them the next day and forget that our friends are loyal to us and have not forgiven them as easy.


5. Never allow friends to tell you what you should and should not do in your relationship. What is right for you has nothing to do with what is right for them. Do not let what other people think ruin your relationship.  This goes back to No.4


6. Never tell your friends what your man or woman does for you. If your man or woman gives you money or cooks for you, enjoy it! Most times we are bragging when we share this type of information. Don't rub it in!
   
7. Never share your mates quirky behavior.  Ex.  If your man shave the hair off of his private parts or your woman shaves the hair off her lip.  As long as when they step outside, we all look good.
8. Never share what you think your mate "might" be planning.  Ie.  I think my boyfriend is going to propose to me.  or, Ie. I think my girlfriend is gonna get me a threesome for my birthday. I say this because most times when we assume, you know what they say.  Just avoid the embarrassment.
9. Never discuss your mates bad habits or pet-peeves you have against mate. Ex. Leaves pubic hair on the soap.
10. Last but not least, never share your mates secrets. If your mate has shared a secret with you it is because they trust and feel safe with you. Telling your friends is a violation of the relationship and shows that you are not really truly invested in securing that trust and security. It is none of your friends business if your mate has been abused or has had some tough time. Also, assume that if you have a big mouth and you are supposed to love this person, that the person you tell is going to tell one of their friends and so on and so on.